Marital/Couples Therapy

You're hitting a wall. It's the same conversation over and over but with no resolution or change. You get anxious and your partner shuts down, they say how they feel and you get defensive. 

Who does more in the relationship? 

Why does conflict always lead to yelling?

Why do always have the same fight?

Should relationships really be this much work?

Do We Need Couples Therapy?

The short answer is yes. Every couple will need therapy at some point and the strongest, healthiest couples are the ones who invest in the relationship through counseling. Couples therapy can help you and your partner better understand each other and your attachment styles. 

Indicators that you and your partner could benefit from couples therapy:

You "keep score" to see who contributes more.

Problems between the two of you rarely get resolved. 

You avoid talking about problems with each other. 

You make passive aggressive digs at each other. 

One or both of you fights "dirty" (ie. name calling, belittling, shaming.)

Communication is non-existent, hostile, or frequently misunderstood. 

You want to build a deeper connection and ensure continued growth as a couple. 

Trauma Informed Couples Counseling

Trauma-informed couples counseling is an approach to therapy that helps couples recognize how past or ongoing trauma can shape emotional responses, communication patterns, and relationship dynamics. Through this approach, the therapist provides a supportive and nonjudgmental environment where both partners feel heard and validated, while also teaching skills for empathy, boundaries, and healthy communication. By integrating an understanding of trauma into the therapeutic process, trauma-informed couples counseling helps couples strengthen their connection, reduce blame, and foster healing both individually and within the relationship.

Disclaimer About Couples Counseling For Narcissistic Abuse

If you believe you are in a relationship with a narcissist or are experiencing any type of abuse, you should seek individual counseling. Couples counseling can pose serious risks when one partner is abusive because the structure of couples therapy may unintentionally enable further harm rather than promote safety.

Please contact the domestic violence hotline for further support and resources. 

How Couples Therapy Can Help You

Through couples counseling you and your partner can:

View each other through a more positive lens.

Better understand how you each respond to stress and trauma triggers.

Learn to effectively communicate needs with less defensiveness, avoidance, or aggression. 

Recognize and appreciate each other's differences. 

Strengthen trust and safety in the relationship. 

Build a stronger connection and bond.

I am trained in level one of the Gottman Method, which is a research based approach to couples therapy. I offer online marital and couples counseling for those physically located in TN, GA, or NC. Contact me today to get started with couples therapy.