What is Codependency?

Codependency is a relationship dynamic where at least one person has an unhealthy dependence on a partner, family member, or friend. Codependent relationships are dysfunctional and imbalanced, with one person’s needs being prioritized over the other’s needs. Codependent relationships can result from one person trying to resolve their unmet childhood needs through another person. Individuals who struggle with addiction, have a trauma history, or have low self-esteem are at risk for being in a codependent relationship.

Healthy relationships consist of sacrifice and require some level of dependency on another person so it can be difficult to discern a healthy relationship from one that is codependent. Below are four signs that may indicate your relationship is codependent or has codependent tendencies.

4 Signs Your Relationship is Codependent

Loss of identity: One person abandons their interests, hobbies, and personality traits for those of their partner.  

Poor boundaries: One or both partners have poor or no boundaries, creating pressure to behave in ways they wouldn’t normally.  

Fusion of emotions: It’s normal to have empathy for your partner and to be impacted by their moods, however, it becomes co-dependent when one partner is unable to function or resume normal life due to their partner’s emotional state.

Self-worth is dependent on being needed: A codependent person feels worthy if they are needed by another person.

Therapy for Codependency

Psychotherapy can help you recognize codependent tendencies and learn to develop healthy, relationships.

Through Psychotherapy you can:

• Learn to set boundaries
• Increase self-worth
• Strengthen self identity
• Have healthy relationships
• Resolve past trauma
• Understand your attachment style and patterns 

I specialize in working with individuals who struggle with codependency and find themselves in a cycle of toxic relationships. Contact me today to get started with Therapy for Codependency.

For additional resources, visit Co-Dependents Anonymous.